Ugh, this bitch pissed me off to no end (not OP)! What do you guys think?

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Posted by anonymous 05.10.09 12:31pm #47593 I saw that segment on Sunday moring today. I love this a group of women that think like me. When my little ones started school. I didn't join the PTA I joined a gym and took a class at the college. I have been told I am a terible mom because some times I tell my kids 6 and 13 to go read a book my and dad are wathing the evening news! I will tell every one here you are not bad moms because you don't feel the need to do every thing and run around 24 hours. It is ok to put your marriage first. It is ok to put your self at the top of your to do list. report abuse | favorite confession metoo (13) comments(6) | share Posted by notsoplain 05.10.09 4:00pm #842130Don't worry, thankfully there are selfless Moms like my self to step up and be part of your childrens education and future. I am a very active member of the PTA and volunteer at my childrens schools. So many parents just treat school like a babysitting service. But I'm here for those children as well as mine. Some of these kids are just so starved for attention, and you can see the hurt in their eyes when their parent doesn't show up for an event. It's cool though, I've got enough love to go around and am proud to take part in guiding them into being wonderful members of society Oh, and I seriously doubt anyone called you a terrible mom for telling your 6 year old and 13 year old children to go read a book while you watch the news. metoo (2) Posted by Sunnie 05.10.09 5:18pm #842195Notsoplain, Get the stick out of your behind. Op, Thank you. I completely agree with you. You can have a life outside your kids. metoo (6) Posted by WATSONMOMMY 05.10.09 7:37pm #842265I am not a member of the PTA, but that certianly doesn't mean that I don't attend events at school like plays and festivals and parent teacher confrences. And damn anybody who says I'm not involved in my kids' lives. I sit down with my 6 yr old every night to work on his reading, spelling, sight words, and math. I use a wonderful website Only registered users can see links on this forum! Register or Login on forum! to help with him as well as my 4 yr old little girl. I work with my 3 yr old on his speech, colors, numbers, and alphabet. I am trying to get my 1 yr old to say words and have a little more courage to walk. I'm a busy person. I literally don't have time for xtra stuff like PTA. I do more for my kids at home then some of those PTA moms do too. So I really don't want to hear the BS. I wish I made I a little more time for myself. Maybe one day when they are all out of diapers I'll have atleast a little time for me and my hubby! metoo (0) Posted by halffull 05.10.09 8:18pm #842310Balance is important. Be there for your kids, but make sure you take care of yourself and your marriage too. All are important and deserve attention. Everyone does this differently. It would be easier on all of us if we could learn to support each other and our different situations rather than judge. metoo (0) Posted by kmshag 05.10.09 9:18pm #842358Notsoplain, you should take your martyr attitude and put that energy to use doing more volunteer work for your kids. Clearly, it allows you to be superior to us all. Me, I'm going to take the energy I have left from playing with my daughter and being her mom and spend that energy on making my husband and myself better parents. Oh, and FYI, being at your kids' school 24/7 does not automatically make you a good mom, or your kids happy; just as choosing not to join the PTA (which, by the way, doesn not mean you miss all the activities at the school, just that you don't have to go to meetings and talk to all the annoying, snotty "supermoms" like yourself) doesn't automatically make you a bad mom. metoo (3) Posted by notsoplain 05.10.09 11:42pm #842437Well aren't you all lovely. No where in my comment did I imply the OP was a bad mom, no where did I say I was better than her. I see these kids daily, I give them extra hugs, they make me drawings that they should be making for you all. They will not be kids forever. And while I'm all for taking care of yourself (wondering why you wait until school age to do this), your children will only be children for so long, and it's important to guide them every step of the way, but for those of you not interested in doing that, I'm here for them. It is volunteers like myself who step up and do what needs to be done for these kids. Good parents or bad, they all benefit from adults taking time out of their lives to put children first. Oh, and I spend plenty of time with my husband. We work out together, we are both active in the PTA (actually PTO here), coach together. You name it. So ladies it is possible to make your kids your number one priority, maintain a wonderful marriage, and take time to care for yourself.

Is she actually claiming not to be calling the OP a bad mom (or neglectful at best)? I wrote this back to her. Yes, I was a huge bitch but I don't care.

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Well, PP, why didn't you say that then, instead of saying "Don't worry, thankfully there are selfless Moms like my self to step up and be part of your childrens education and future." How much more condescending can you get? It certainly appears as though you think you're better. "It's cool though, I've got enough love to go around and am proud to take part in guiding them into being wonderful members of society" - certainly appears as though you're insinuating that OP (because you were the first commentor on HER confession) and others who aren't involved in PTA (which is the only activity she mentioned shirking) lack the skills and involvement to make THEIR kids productive members of society. Are you really so blind to your own superiority complex that you can't see where those comments would be offensive to moms who chose to take a different path than your own? It smacks of implying OP is a bad mom and that you believe yourself to be better than her. Would you appreciate that? You also were the guilty party on assuming that moms who aren't involved in PTA aren't involved in coaching, achool functions, other volunteering, and other aspects of their childrens lives (although you claim otherwise in your second post). Also, I'm assuming that OP mentioned taking more time for herself once her kids started school because she was a SAHM and school starting freed up more time in her life. What's hard to understand about that? On another note- don't you, for ONE SECOND, assume that MY child needs any extra hugs from you. Sure, you may have run across cases like this, but you don't know me, OP, or anyone else on this board. Take your sniveling crap to the parents of the kids you actually know and keep the negative comments to yourself around here. You're just proof that there really is no such thing as altruism- from how you've represented yourself here, it seems that your "payment" for your volunteer work is feeling oh-so-superior to us moms who "just don't get it."

People like this grate on my nerves. Don't you tell me that because you spend every spare minute dictating the PTA that I don't take an interest in my child's life. I have no desire to be a part of the PTA, but that doesn't mean I won't be there for every (or almost every) poetry recital, ball game, musical, concert, what-have-you. That also doesn't mean that I feel the need to spend the already limited time I have with my husband in some meeting. Ugh, what a bitch. I don't even know what else to say.

(Oh, and did she REALLY just say "they make me drawings that they should be making for you all."??? WTF kind of thing is that to say to another mom? She has the mentality of the "other woman" in an affair, only relating to kids.)

Those are the kinds of parents I don't want my kid(s) around. They think they're better because they have the time to waste doing PTA and such. Pssh.. She needs a reality check and possibly a life outside of her kids.

I'm the PTA secretary, and I'll suggest you NEVER join the PTA board. Just don't! The number of catty, shitty, backstabbing witches that want to dictate just flabbergasts me. I like to laugh as they fail. To the point I've, apparently today!, got our overbearing VP to resign because she doesn't like it when the nasty e-mails she sends get commented about IN board meetings in front of the Principal and Vice Principal. She doesn't like when she asks "just what is your problem" that I tell her if she wants to back stab, do it to my face. Something about I'm rude if I don't let her bash board members who aren't present, something about I'm being mean by calling her on every screw up (including teacher appreciation week, class photos, and quite a few other things) or note just how unimportant her position is (PTA regs - gotta love 'em - say me and Pres are all that's needed) when she decides to scream (literally SCREAM) over the President during a meeting.

I feel quite accomplished today, but I really do suggest you don't join the board. Help out, pay the dues even if you don't want to go to meetings because we really do use it to better our school, but no one is a bad parent for not joining. That's just crap.

I will say the obnoxious poster has a point, I've had kids make me drawings and when I suggest they take it home to mom (never dad for some reason) they've told me "she won't want it". That's heart breaking, but telling a kid to read a book is not neglect or abuse and not putting up with holier-than-thou does not make for a bad parent.

I agree that she has a point in that some kids' parents can't be bothered to attend ANYTHING their kid does as far as school functions, extracurriculars, etc. Sometimes, those kids (especially elementary-age ones) feel badly about it and become attached to teachers, other parents, etc. However, that's not what the OP was referring to, and not being part of the PTA has nothing to do with that. That's a point (however valid) this lady brought up off the subject to try to make others feel bad. That's the problem I have with her mentioning it. Sorry, I doubt my daughter will care if I'm in the PTA or volunteer wil 124876 things at her school as long as I support her hobbies and am there for her for special events.

Oh, and continually referring to oneself as "selfless" for being on the PTA when it is clear how much enjoyment you get out of being a "better mother"? Idiotic.

Someone is on a PTA high horse, and needs a knock down. I am not selfless, and dear god you don't want to know how much time I put in (which is much less than the President does). However, it's not at all selfless. No PTA board member, or general member is a better parent and it should never be used to beat someone about the head with.

i hate those women who act like being a mom is a contest.

My oldest will be going to a charter school next year...it's public, but it's in a private church-school. If that makes sense.

Parents are required to spend 10 hours volunteering during the school year.

My mom got a call from the PTA once. They wanted her to help with something...it was awful...she got up & walked out of the meeting.